“Are you pure?” asked the guy who came to see Sonali for marriage. “Pure????” Sonali couldn’t get his question. “Pure as in untouched?” he clarified. Sonali now understood what he wanted to ask. “What are you looking for a girl to marry or ghee?” she replied agitated by such a question. He was shocked at such a reply, but before he could say anything. Sonali continued, “Well you can say if there was an exam about ‘purity’ I wouldn’t top it!” His family left..
Next day he rang up Sonali’s dad and told him that he cannot marry Sonali as she is a girl with low morals. Bang on! Welcome to the progressive India where
we claim to be modern people but still make
Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to
become a good wife. Today when we claim that women have
an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are
under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the
first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!!
The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he
wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife.
Why Answer- just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going
to spend his life with has been and will be only his“possession”. If today a girl loses her virginity with
a guy she loves truly but the guy turn s out to be a cheat
then she is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND
YOU these being the most decent words I can pen down ,else
there are a million more worse words in our mother
tongue vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl?
She loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought
she would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which
would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make
him believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no
answers I could get! I completely support the fact that we
Indians should not give up on our morals and accept
everything that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can
a biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide
the level of her morals? I mean Sonali could have been
a great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents
chose, maybe she had a bad past… But all that was seen
was that she wasn’t pure! L And I am forced to wonder that
what would happen to those rape victims? Who would
marry those girls? Moreover a girl from a sports
background, has always been told by those orthodox distant
relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in
breakage of the “moral wall”!! “ “Urggghhh ”, that’s what I have
always thought after hearing that!!
Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian
girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is
priceless, who has always dreamt of her
“raajkumar”
coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has
always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a
girl who belongs to the globalised world, interacts with
the opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them
and smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any
thing for that reason! I just request you that next time
you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true
heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s
gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your
hunger of ego. When you look at a beautiful girl coming
dressed in a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become
a part of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of
roses rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay
down on a bed with white bed sheet because true love will
make your marriage successful, her “purity” won’t...
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Next day he rang up Sonali’s dad and told him that he cannot marry Sonali as she is a girl with low morals. Bang on! Welcome to the progressive India where
we claim to be modern people but still make
Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to
become a good wife. Today when we claim that women have
an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are
under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the
first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!!
The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he
wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife.
Why Answer- just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going
to spend his life with has been and will be only his“possession”. If today a girl loses her virginity with
a guy she loves truly but the guy turn s out to be a cheat
then she is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND
YOU these being the most decent words I can pen down ,else
there are a million more worse words in our mother
tongue vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl?
She loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought
she would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which
would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make
him believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no
answers I could get! I completely support the fact that we
Indians should not give up on our morals and accept
everything that westernisation gives us but I wonder how can
a biological wall in the girl’s body by breaking decide
the level of her morals? I mean Sonali could have been
a great wife, she was marrying the guy her parents
chose, maybe she had a bad past… But all that was seen
was that she wasn’t pure! L And I am forced to wonder that
what would happen to those rape victims? Who would
marry those girls? Moreover a girl from a sports
background, has always been told by those orthodox distant
relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in
breakage of the “moral wall”!! “ “Urggghhh ”, that’s what I have
always thought after hearing that!!
Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian
girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is
priceless, who has always dreamt of her
“raajkumar”
coming on a white horse to marry her, and who has
always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a
girl who belongs to the globalised world, interacts with
the opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them
and smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any
thing for that reason! I just request you that next time
you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true
heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s
gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your
hunger of ego. When you look at a beautiful girl coming
dressed in a red lehanga leaving her world behind, to become
a part of your world, accept her, make her life a bed of
roses rather than testing her loyalty by making her lay
down on a bed with white bed sheet because true love will
make your marriage successful, her “purity” won’t...
SHARE this post if you respect it
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